Wednesday 4 April 2012

Life..An Experiment

Life is simple...

 “Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans.” 


       “You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.” 



I always had one question in my life – How to live a life?

Valid question don’t you think? Even though the question looks simple, the answer is tricky.

We always say “one life live it”, live the way you want to. But we’re still caught due to peer pressure, parent’s happiness, fear etc.

Reasons reasons reasons…. If we take a piece of paper and start writing all the reasons we have in mind, I don’t know how many papers one would require. Our life is built on reasons.

Is life a cycle? Maybe…
We all know what life is and how we have to survive... But the question is – Are we really living our lives or just existing? Some may not even know the difference.

So what do you think are the barriers for living a life?
  • Parents dreams, their happiness
  • Peer pressure / Friend circle
  • Desire / Greed
  • Social Status
If we place these in a graph, it’ll be:
Let’s check the barriers one by one:

Parent’s dreams, their happiness: It doesn’t sound as a barrier, but it’s an innocent hit. I’m just saying that they don’t do it intentionally. They want us to survive the world, because they know that the world is cruel. They want us to excel in everything. In this process they don’t concentrate on what we love and want to do. They just ask us to do what is needed to survive in this world (existing not living). They don’t want us to do the mistake they’d done, but what they don’t understand is that "only by falling once will a person learn to get up, by making mistakes we learn."

Peer pressure / Friend circle: If you share an idea to the team or the group they might criticize it, not because they want to, but only because they don’t want you to fall into trouble. Everyone wants you to stay in FIT Well (Frog in the well) for the frog its well is its world. Not all friends are like that, some know your potential and jump in to help you instantly (that’s why the graph shows less percentage).

Desire / Greed:  We definitely know this is bad, but can we control it? That’s the question to be answered. Many of us don’t even realize that we’ve entered the wrath of greed. Greed is bad, we all know that. It’s similar to the saying - “smoking is injurious to health” but still people love it, don’t they? We don’t know when our desires will convert to Greed stage. We only feel that it can be controlled by us, but we’re only over-confident regarding it.

Social Status: Finally the stage which is as dangerous as all the others, the Social Status. It sounds innocent and elegant. But it’s the gangrene which helps us only in one thing – decomposing. Well we people are funny, first in order to make our life easy we work hard and create new systems and technologies. Once its done in order to keep up with the growing technologies we again study the things built for our comfort and lazy living. We all are the same, everyone wants an easy life but in the process get things complicated.
In order to maintain the status people don’t try new things or things which they feel are below their status.

Now that’s about the barriers that help us "Exist" in this world. But our question still goes unanswered… Does "Existing" win the battle between Living vs. existing? We all hope for an happy ending, even I love them, but lets be practical, only when the time is past we feel what was done was of no use or din make much sense, we always have the habit of regretting.

All I’m saying is that life is very unpredictable; we never know what’s its purpose, what’s the reason for our existence. We feel what we do is right and hold on to it as if it’s a priced possession, we even advice others to follow us, but in the end we “always” feel we’ve wasted our time. Time is indeed precious but to do what? Saying is always easy but figuring it out is the tough part.

Is business main part of our life? Are we here to prove our worth? Dint god make us all to be equal? Y then do we compete? Y then do we prove who’s better? Y then for our selfish reasons destroys our wonderful Nature? To be honest no one knows, but we all are a bunch of selfish, confused and complicated beings in this world.

Confused...Don't be...Just love everyone...smile @ everyone you meet :-)

Listen to your heart...coz that's what'll make you happy:-)