How many of us fall in love and break up?
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| Patched up heart...What else can we do with a broken heart? |
I would say that would add up to a great percentageJ.
Well No one can help anyone with break ups, they always hurt. They are a part and parcel of life.
Everyone loves change, so no one can blame anyone.
I remember an evolution theory put forth by Charles Darwin “Survivor of the fittest”. Fits 100 % to this situation I would say.
Well I’m no relationship Guru, But had couple of break up’s which helped me understand few things. My primary intention of writing this blog is to share the things that I’ve learnt and try to help those who recently had a break up.
Let’s try to answer an evergreen question – Why do people break up?
Well no one knows the actual reason; it might be anything and nothing. Break up is simply because one of the couple doesn’t see a happy future ahead in their relationship.
So is there a reason you have to stick on, if your partner doesn’t want to? Absolutely no, you can convince the other person and get him/her back, but is it worth? You should answer this to yourself.It’s just a “pain postpone management”, all we are doing is just trying to make it work, so that we wont feel the pain at present. That again piles up and hurts you even more.
So what else do we do? Well simple answer from my side is – “If your partner really loves you, they just need time, they’ll be back. If not relax and enjoy life (Don’t wait for him/her)”.
Well words are easy but feelings can’t be understood. That’s absolutely true.
When I had a break up, all my friends gave me good suggestions… time will heal, give time… forget about her… you’ll get many girls…etc etc… But I always felt that’s tough, not consoling at all, only because I didn’t wanted to stand back on my feet, was used to the support I had from my ex.
Everything in our life is controlled by only one person, that person is “oneself”. If we decide to give up, then we’ve lost everything. If we decide to live happily, then no one can stop us from doing so.
Well it is tough; I’ve never told that it was a piece of cake for me. But that’s the challenge everyone has to take in order to excel in it.
There’s always a plan, always a way, always an easier method to everything in life. All we have to do is listen to our heart, for that method. It never happens though, because we make our heart weep, by reminding all the unnecessary stuff from the past. Yes it is unnecessary, because it makes us sad.
Why should we be sad in life? There’s so much in life to know about. God is the best creator, there are so many things he has done, and we should adore the gift he has given and move on.
Anything that makes us sad should be tackled in a different form. If there’s a problem solve it don’t be sad because of it, remember it will not solve itself.
“If you can solve your problem, then what is the need of worrying? If you cannot solve it, then what is the use of worrying?”
So work on your problems in a different manner instead of trying a usual route.
For me I switched it with ‘craziness’. Whenever I became sad and vulnerable I did something crazy in order to overcome it.
Craziness helps divert your mind. There are different types of craziness, so check what suits you best.
All the mind needs after a break up, is diversion. Our heart is like a child, you divert it and you’ll find happiness. So Diversion theory really works. At least it worked for me.
There is another famous 4 letter word which helps in every situation... Do you know what it is? Ofcourse you know... The word is "NEXT"... You had a break up just say next time.. you lost a job interview say next interview.. you proposed and she didn't accept... tell yourself next time.. The word has a powerful meaning, deeper meaning.. it means we have to move on no matter what...
So its one life lovers… not one love…share your love with everyone.. Remember All of us are a precious gift given by God to the earth.
Love you all…
Live life to the fullest!!!!!
