Tips to make life happier.

Tips to make life happier.

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1. Keep your self esteem high (if you want people to respect you; first respect yourself): 

There are a lot of times when we feel that others are better than us, maybe, but how does that stop us from achieving our goals? coz we are way better than others in some aspects too... So rather than telling ourselves that we arent better, we should concentrate on our expertise and boost up that level of self esteem.

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2. Take feedback analyse it and apply feed forward (don't neglect all feedback, some may help): 

 Everyone gives feedback (Directly or indirectly by commenting on our lifestyle), there is nothing to be angry or irritated about it, because they are entitled to their opinions; but that doesnt mean all they say are pure words of wisdom, accept the ones you feel are needed for self improvement, others just trash them.

3. Always ask people for feedback, and always go for the critics, not the positives, bcoz your plan Is self development, not boasting.

 Asking feedback is always good; if you love something and need to master it then the only way is hardwork and feedback along with feedforward (Not taking feedback and doing nothing about it wont help, you have to work on it).

4. Avoid gossip of any kind (puts you in trouble always, if not now then in the future): 

 You heard a gossip? then go and tell the person you heard it about, if you can take it to the grave then do so...but "DONT spread it". What you heard may not be the total truth or may not even be true at all.. in which case spreading it will only make it worse, as rumors are like chinese whisper / Grapewine communication, you only make friends for that moment, glory for that moment, but people will eventually leave you stranded.

5. React wisely: 

 Someone spoke ill about you or gossiped at your cost, then don't react first, understand the reason behind it, dont just get angry on that person and start a word fight, ask him / her directly and wait for their reply, look at their reaction, try to analyse, if nothing makes sense then that person was jealous, so just enjoy that and move on.

6. This too Shall Pass: 

 Keep a note to self at all times "this moment shall pass" read it, understand it and live it. It reminds us that time never stops for anything, anyone or anytime. So when you are the happiest, you'll know that it'll pass, when you are sad it helps, when you are low and depressed it helps. In general it helps you to stand on the ground at all times (If you are flying too high or if you've fallen on the ground, brings you back to your feet)

7. Respect is the Key: 

 No matter who the other person is always show respect ( don't respect for the position, respect the person) all work hard for their earnings, some get lucky and others don't, so don't laugh or make fun at their expense. (bcoz Fate my friend is like wind, it can change direction at anytime and towards anyone)

8. Lesson from Nature:

Mother nature has abundance knowledge and wisdom (only for those who are hungry for knowledge), if we just sit back and observe the nature, it teaches us lot more than we've ever learnt..

Learn from a tree, even if you chop it or burn it down it always has hope, not scared to start over again..

9. Believe it:

believe in yourself, coz if you don't then no one else will..

We always feel that we need someone or something to motivate us..why do we feel that? Maybe because we don't believe in yourself..the only motivation we need is internal... We believe in excuses more than ourselves...something went wrong or we made a mistake, our immediate thinking mechanism is to blame..

Why is it difficult for us to accept the mistake and believe in not making it again?

10. Uniqueness:

know urself to create a USP for self...
don't follow others USP bcoz it may not suit you...you may become like them but still can't succeed bcoz of the reason "its not wat u say, its how u say it creates an impression..

figure out your USP instead of copying others..

this can be done by moving out of the comfort zone and trying things not tried before..

bcoz only when u get out of comfort zone will you understand the value of yourself and will be able to understand your strengths n weaknesses

don't be a FIT WELL (Frog in the well)

11. Judge not: 

Try not to judge a person, not all who laugh are happy and not all who are sad in pain. Even if u judge(human nature can't avoid) keep it to self, you don't have to convert people to your opinion.

Judging only let's you see the person from the angle of your judgement, when he can be an awesome personality altogether...

So give people a chance and you'll get impressed by them, coz all have learnt their lesson.. And their teaching would be their way of behaviour...

Everyone has something to offer... So take it happily...

12. Everyone matters:

Never try and change people`s behaviour or opinion, you wouldn't change it yourself, so why will they. Everyone has the right to have their own opinion, so respect that.

We often believe that we are right, we know it soo much that we dont care about others opinion.. Well there is a wise saying " I would rather be happy, than right at any point in life".

We live for happiness, being right is good but being happy is better.. So never stop people from being happy (coz that is the best medicine)

13. Problems fear smile:
Secrets out, yes...
All our problems fear something and that something is easily accessible - "SMILE"
When we smile all our problems start biting their nails and get nervous, coz they know that their time has come...
So SMile to all your problems is the best reason for the right solution.

Always try to make people smile, be the reason for that smile.. try to make a new person smile everyday. (the real pursuit of happiness lies in other peoples happiness)

14. Make Mistakes:

No one was happy by our mistakes and the result, we make more mistakes on the same scene..

Reason - we dont stop and understand as to why we made that mistake in life, or how could we have avoided it, we are soo busy and adamant about the mistakes we've made that the learning goes to 0%..

What if we think as to why we made the mistake, make self analysis and feedback along with feed forward.. we learn quicker and we avoid repetition of it...

Never be scared to do mistakes, that's the best way to learn... but always remember not to repeat them.

15. Be Positive:

And no am not talking about the blood group ;)..

Our body and our nature is energy driven... and there are 2 major energy widely accepted - Positive and Negative...

Positive energy helps us be positive and think upright with low fears and helps us take wise decisions.

Negative energy makes us mistake prone and gets us into depressions, it also helps create doubts and low self confidence.

Have you ever wondered, when your heart is filled with love and joy everything that happens around you (Be it be bad or good), you take it positively.

16. Live and Let Live:

We are people who want to convert others to our beliefs... Why do we have to convince people to change?? Why cant we just live and let other live by their values??

Your life, your style... Why comment about others style when you'll get offended for the same.

Lets try and adopt a style where we accept all kinds of people for who they are and not who you want them to be (thinking that they need help and trying to change others for good isnt really a good idea, if you ask me)

 Never comment on anyone's lifestyle or habit (there might be a hidden painful reason for the same), we never know for sure what have they gone through in life. (its easy to say that he made a wrong decision and took a wrong path, because we did not try that persons shoes, what looks simple and easy is never really easy).

17. Use your own advice:

We love giving advice, as its easy and makes us look wise (also we know that we will gain attension when the advice works)..

Its not bad to give advice... but many a times our own advice isnt followed by us, in which case its difficult to lead others by example...

Lets try leading life by advices which we plan on giving others, so they will learn by example and not words.

Not everyone has the options you feel they have... everyone selects the best option for themselves..so stop feeling that a person would've done this instead of doing that...

You don't have the privilege to decide for others.

18. Happiness: 

When asked what gets me happy, I would say that its not the riches in the world or the appraisals at work, or the recognition that gets me happy... its always the simple and easyily found things that get me happiness (like the laugh of a child, being with friends making them laugh, enjoying a delicious meal with my sister, cooking, writing, being with nature, smiling at others and when that smile returns etc).

There is always a reason to be happy. find that reason and be happy.

19. Happiness Formula: 

Yes there is a formula for happiness, and i have even mentioned it in my earlier blogs.

Its, Happiness = Realizing that a goal / expectation is achieved (Divided by) Number of expectations or goals in life.

We always forget the expectations we had once we accomplish it... like when i was a kid i wanted to be a person who travels around... and when i did travel i set some new goals and completely forgot to sit and realize that my childhood dreams have come true...

The joy you get in this is more than just happiness (and that too in just acknowledging the fact that you have accomplished).

Lower expectation and increase acknowledging accomplishment ( reaching a goal always makes you happy) live the moment don't forget your goals (childhood goals).

20.  Dont pull people down:

A small story,. 2 people were fishing in a lake for crabs... the fisherman used to catch the crab and put them in an open bucket.. the other fisherman (relatively new to the field) asked him to cover the bucket to protect his catch..

To which the fisherman asked the new guy to observe the bucket and his catch..

What he observed was, that the crabs tried to get out of the bucket climbing slowly and using good strength to do the same... but the other crabs in the bucket pulled the one crab puttin in efforts to escape,. this way neither of them got out alive.

So lets not be a crab, but help others come up in life which helps us in return to be a part of their success,,

Thank you for reading this long message on Happiness....

Lets be happy... Lets put a smile on everyone's face around us ;)