Woman...Unchained...

A Woman,

What do we Men know about Women?

We know for sure how to dominate them, don’t we?

But can we take a minute to think, what have we done with them?

Before we begin with anything, I have to create a link between 2 entities. (This is completely the ideas and views about Women by me, so if you get offended please stop reading).

Woman	Creator
1.       Motherly Instincts	1.       Parental instincts – always gives what we ask and takes care of us.
2.       Gives birth to another human by the most painful process the humankind has ever known.	2.       Created the world and everyone in it.
3.       Heavy Mental strength, Patience and tolerance.	3.       Always observing
4.       Bleeds at least 500 ml blood per month

There is a similarity here,

If our true creator could create and this gift was passed onto a Woman, then how on earth did they become inferior to us?

If they can handle pain much more than what we can handle (if we bleed 500 ml over a week how would we be?), how did they become the weaker species?

I feel this was known to our ancestors and hence started keeping them (Women) and their powers suppressed so that they don’t outceed us. If you check out the ways we have imprisoned them or suppressed them:

• 1.       Before anything, we kill them in the womb itself, so they don’t step into this world.
• 2.       We feed them lesser compared to the other gender, weakening them physically for our advantage in the future.
• 3.       We prove that they are dirty during their periods making them conscious and staying at home during this feeling ashamed for a process which God made them that way.
• 4.       We force them to marry a good man, who can take care of them – this we inject it through all movies, older generation and live movies at home.
• 5.       After Marriage, we show it that their family isn’t important to them anymore and husband’s family is everything for them. We steal their power of freedom by chaining them into a new location
• 6.       Objects Women have to wear after marriage – Chain on their neck, Bangles on wrist & Toe rings / Anklets etc. Observing carefully even prisoners undergo the same chaining system. Co-incidence??
• 7.       We show that Men need to be served by Women and for them their Man is their God. So even if beaten will accept, Even if tortured will tolerate, Even if treated as a tool will withstand.
• 8.       They have been taught to take care of Men since the beginning. Cooking for them, washing their clothes, pleasing them, entertaining them, making them dependent by stating that they cant work.

Why did these come into existence? Why did we steal their rights? What were we scared of? Questions I didn’t find answers to.

But I know that the times are changing and we will most surely get to see the hidden talents and the potentials they will shower on this world. Hopefully they wont fall prey to any more strategies we Men have made to stop them from unleashing their true potential. And for all we know they may finally save this world from ending.

From a Concerned Human.

Thank you for reading!!! 

To be continued...

Life... Uncomplicating it...

Complicated path??

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Life is complicated.….
Is the above statement true? 

We make it complicated…. Or is this true? 

Well I have complicated my life uncomplicated it….again complicated and uncomplicated it…. So I know for sure…. That we human, we people, we homo-sapiens complicate life.

How do we complicate life? Isn't it very simple? 

Life is actually very very simple… but if everything becomes too simple then people cant make money, people wont get power, people wont be able to show how they are better. Hence they try to complicate it for their pleasure and benefit and we fall into it blindly maybe because of ancestors belief or maybe because of peer pressure. 

• May it be education where we learn to adapt to a complicated lifestyle.
• May it be religion where we believe that our god is the best and our methods are the right path.
• May it be our tradition which we follow whose actual reason is unknown and hence blindly followed as a strict rule.

Every single step has complications….with so many chains how do you free yourself? 

With all these restrictions how do you dream free? Even your dreams are restricted now a days… 

Can you tell the difference between dreams when you dreamt as kids and your dreams now? You will find your answers as to whether you are succumbed to the complications or not…

Who knows the right method to live life? Sages? priests? Kings?…am sure no one does….no one is back from the dead….and even if reincarnated they don't remember anything about the time when there were dead and if anyone told them the secret of living life…. 

So how then do we live? How then do we uncomplicate ourselves? 

Well I follow a method, a couple of them actually: 

1. Follow your heart no matter what (with the exception if its in a hurt state, then just give it time…it heals very soon….just a little time).

2. Never ever kill the child in you….each and every thing around you wants you to kill the child and become an adult….but what is an 'adult'….just another word for complication…so never let the child die….its the only thing that's innocent, dreams from the heart, and eager to keep moving ahead… 

3. Make a Happiness recipe:- take lots of passion mix it with your dreams nicely until they become a dough, add a pinch of plan and leave it for sometime. Then roll out one portion and try to execute… if failed then take another portion and try….do this until atleast one becomes good enough to be fried and eaten…

Trust me when I say this: the meal that you eat from the above successful recipe will be the best meal of your life and once tasted you will become addicted to taste more and more of it.. 

So there you go…. Hope this helps…just thought of sharing whats in my mind….

Thank you for reading…

Satan's Key

I met this awesome gentleman from Hyderabad and had a mind blowing conversation with him. Just a 30-40 mins of talk felt like billion hours of wisdom inflow. I will never forget the day "17-01-19" which has made my new year resolution simple and sturdy. I will let you know my resolution, but first let me share what I obtained from the conversation.

How do we obtain peace? Serenity? Eternal patience and the ability to remain unbelievably calm?
Lot of us try different things, go different ways, basically experiment and learn but hardly a handful get lucky.

Lets take me for example, in search of peace I did try a lot of things, finally very few helped me get peace but I have successfully learnt to be happy, so I do reciprocate happiness for peace. But what I did, learnt and implemented also had simpler methods. But the secret again holds that - " it only gets simpler when you fall down or fail a lot, until then it's just a wise saying that no one follows".
Just like success is actually understood best when you fail a lot.

What is this simpler method that I spoke about?
Before we answer that, lets try to understand what role our mind has in our existence.

What do you think is the role of our mind? Does it channel our thoughts in the right direction?
Does it help us move on towards positivity? Peace?
What does it actually do?

Our mind plays games, tries and always succeeds in making sure we don't live the moment. I'm sure lot of you have different opinions and may disagree with me. Just read it out and see if this helps, if it doesn't, you are always welcome to share your thoughts in the comment section.

Have these things ever happened to you?

1. You are having an awesome time and suddenly something sad that had happened years ago, comes back in a flash and gets you low?

2. You try to concentrate on something important and failed?

3. You want to do something good but you end up listening to your mind, which scares you of a lot of things like especially its most favourite - "what would others think?"

So in conclusion our mind diverts, plays, tricks, and do everything just to get off our focus from the present. We have always, always tried to think and be sad about the past, think and be worried about the future, but never stopped to think and try to live the day.

So the primary source of all solution lies in understanding the right problem. Here the problem is that our minds are smart and they trick our ways to take over our selves. We have become our mind and we have to change that.

How do we do that?
Firstly, let me tell you that no one has won a fight against the mind. So how then do we win?

Once our mind gets the idea that we are planning against it, it takes it up as a challenge and outsmarts us. So just play along and listen to all it has to say and do respond positively to its suggestions but do what you actually want to do and then convince the mind that it was an error or in some other ways you deem suitable.

You can't delete your mind, neither can you replace it, but you can most definitely format it one step at a time. Slowly taking its powers away and letting it follow your ways. Because if you can direct your mind either by tricking it or by commanding it, then there is nothing in this world that can stop peace from knocking and entering your door step.

Finally, the simpler method I spoke about is "trick your mind to do what you want". That's it. It is actually a really difficult task but yet again the easiest task to do. For those who have failed in life and know the value of success it's easier than those who have stayed in their comfort zone forever.

So go ahead people stop following the mind and start playing with it. Not from tomorrow, not from next month, but from today and from now. Because if it's not now then when else?, If it's not you then who else?

My resolution for this year is to use the Satan's key i.e "trick the mind to do what I want" which will help me lock the Satan away.

All the best and let me know what worked so we can help more and more people attain peace.

Thanks for reading...

What a Dream!!!

As I walked down the road, I saw something unusual, something very different than the everyday encounter. There was a pretty bird with uneven wings, one wing lengthier than the other; at first I went closer to understand what it does with this uneven length or pretty odd feature, As I approached closer and closer, I saw something funny and leaked out a ‘HA” from my mouth.

The bird was trying to fly & fell multiple times as the navigation was tough to control or stabilize. But then after a few minutes & probably 10 “HA’s” I was amazed. It tried for sometime, fell a lot of times and finally covered its entire body with its longest wing. Stood still for sometime, felt like it needed the warmth to console itself, to gather itself, measuring its ability, re-building its confidence and waiting for the steam to build up slowly up to the brim.

Once it was ready, it flung into the air – using the longest wing to propel itself into thin air, making it shoot like a rocket in a spiral motion. This sight was very pleasing to see, as the bird flew spirally into the air the colourful feathers blended with the surrounding making it look like a tracer in the sky – a beauty just mind-blowing to watch.

How the bird understood itself, its strengths, taking time to know itself, analyse its uneven growth or weird nature and then move with a confidence that makes the entire mankind look like a bunch of cowards.

I was so taken back and amazed that I ended up clapping loudly with joy and respect, unfortunately to my luck the sound of my clap reached the ear of the bird and it targeted me as though I’m its personal bull’s-eye, flew right towards me with an impactful intension, came closer to me, stopped just as it's beak reached my ear and it whispered “ I am ‘YOU’; just stop dreaming and take the leap”, saying this it slapped me really hard on my right cheek & I wake up staring at my sister trying to wake me up from a very long deep sleep.

A day @ the Paradise

A day @ the Paradise

I wake up and walk, I see a beautiful place, a place where I want to be, and a place where I see a lot of peace.

As I walk towards the light I find a lot of things lying around, I think to myself “Why this mess, why the stress; everything around is so beautiful, but my aura has lost its charm and gotten less meaningful?”

So I sit down in my dear dump yard, and try to sort things out. Make things look good and enjoy peace at the place I want. One by one I take things out, Create boxes and become the judge, sentence one by one whether the things from the dump yard is required or is to be destroyed.

It’s a task, a huge one, takes a long time, but has to be done.

My first object is Emotion, I take it and try judging it – “Why have I stored them here? Why have I bottled them up?”

I can see anger boiling up, waiting to be let out for destruction;

I can see sadness stored up waiting for recognition, craving to be shared, and screaming in pain;

I can see happiness which was hidden or left within without expressing, which has lost its excitement and thus losing its value;

I can see some feelings have become depressed, the need to be felt, the need to be close to someone and yet not disclosed.

It got me down, way down, thinking what can be done, how it can be done and how things can be back? Or should I just put it in “to be destroyed” box?

Judging is tough, mighty tough. So I pend it and keep it in “Work in Progress (WIP)” box.

My Second Object – Acknowledgement or Self-Appraisal – “What does this mean?” I plan on a lot of things, I plan on what I need (May-be now, or for the future), I work on my plan, but one thing I have always, always missed is to tell myself what a good job I have done – whenever it was successful or that I have tried and learnt whenever it is not. I pray to god to give me something – but when he has given abundantly, I have never really gone back thanking him for the blessings given, this is because I forget my previous prayer and have a new prayer / new need which am eager for.

This needs work – I have to sit and think of my accomplishments and then pat my back – so I decide let it be in “WIP” box.

My third object – Dreams – all my stored up dreams with less courage and confidence to pursue them are being stolen one by one. It’s passing on to others who have it in them to go forward and pursue them. They are tired of staying and it has created a hole in that zone, making the new dreams easy to escape. How do I work on this? How do I patch this up? NO IDEA. For now let me put it in “WIP” Box.

My Fourth Object – Internal suffering – How I want everyone else to be happy but myself, sacrifice for others – this should make me happier but it ends up saddening me? Because the more I try to keep everyone happy, I end up creating a confusion and everything goes haywire. I want to be happy to make others happy, but this is the only extent of my knowledge or analysis – how to do it I have no idea. So “WIP” is where I dump this.

Here I end my day and I see that the beauty which was in front of me (the place I wanted to be) has moved on and all I did the whole day was trying to sort things out. There was a little content that at least I have done something today, and that tomorrow is another day, which will help me go to the beautiful place as I have sorted the mess within. So I sleep with joy and hope for tomorrow.

The next day I get up early, fresh, and excited. Jump up from my bed and run towards the Beautiful place. I run looking forward, and trip and fall down, I get up and look around, all the mess back in its place. A small tear forms in my eye, and slowly runs down my cheek, all my hard work, all my hopes crushing within. I go to find the source of the mess and I see that there was always a hole, a big, a wide hole in “WIP” where I kept throwing the things into.

I look at the beautiful place and feel another tear rolling down, just staring at the place I want to be, just wanting to be at the place of peace.

Creativity vs Technology

Hi Guys,

Hope you are doing well,

I was walking down the empty lanes near my house and there was a moment of a flash-back episode from my childhood. This was my motivation in writing or rather selecting this topic.

Before we jump straight into the topic, let’s understand the meaning of the terms individually.

Light Bulb

Creativity – The Oxford dictionary defines this as – “the use of imagination or original ideas to create something, inventiveness”

My Understanding – Creating something new, anything, without tagging it as good / bad, useful/ useless, profitable/loss.

Technology Gods

Technology - The Oxford dictionary defines this as – “the application of scientific knowledge for practical purposes.

My Understanding – Study of Techniques & using new tools to make life easier.

Everyone has a spark that hits them or as shown in olden cartoon a light bulb that powers up, this is an idea that needs to be worked on, needs to be tried on, failed and tried again and then go 100% on it. But that is slowly diminishing is what I feel, it’s not because the spark has stopped, but because people have started hesitating to own it up or even give it a try.

Before technology came into this world we were awesome, pushing brain to the maximum, and the results were astonishing (can say that because we created this so called technology :) itself). Later when it slowly picked up, the ratio of tech vs creativity was 10:90 and slowly it has changed over time. I guess now we can say that the ratio is somewhere 80:20, where creativity is narrowed down to better the technology in place and not think of anything else.

Look around and observe, all are on their mobile phones, children exposed to so called “technology” in a very early stages, we have sunk in or gone in depth to this technology, that we don’t have time to think or act on a new spark. When we are free we use mobile phones, when we are busy we are busy with either mobile/laptop/tv/gaming tech etc.

Gone are the days when kids used to be out and play all their childhood, May it be cricket/football or any innovative games they make up in their time. They used to work on their sparks and make it happen, this used to be helpful in many ways (boosts up their confidence, makes them feel proud, brings their self-esteem to where it belongs). Now they call it the e-era (internet era) where kids are playing football/criket etc on their game pads and in a virtual set up, why meet and greet when u can do that all online – is the new funda.

We are moving ahead in technology no doubt, but we are successfully covering the fact that we are moving backwards in creativity and innovation. It's something like the immunity system or the physical strength that has stayed in the olden era and slowly diminished over time, where one could survive major problems and now even for a mosquito bite we need help. Some may argue to the fact that we have severe diseases compared to earlier times, but again how did they come in place? - Lethargy, true because we invent things to make life easier and have to face consequences - anything easy has its side-effects.

Things that we are not able to cope :-

1. Childhood :-

Learning to be dependent on technology, having low confidence - to the extent that if something fails we think of suicide, Everything made so easy - no need to use our brain / think, need a new idea - Google it, need some info - Google it, need suggestion regarding what to wear - Google it, and if Google says it’s impossible then its Final!!!

Technology has taken over our minds and we are blind to accept and change. In fact, we may even go and ask Google this question :D.

These times are supposed to be the best times - Utilise childhood efficiently and the future is set. But learning to be dependant makes things a little difficult. Purpose is changed to smaller things - materialistic things and that doesn’t help build personality.

We are what we teach and future observes us and they change accordingly, So what do you want to do :)

       2. Parenting: -

Quality Time

Raising children to be self dependent individuals, so they can take care of themselves is not the concept anymore, at least that’s what i feel. Now-a-days it’s more like make more money and you will survive (and if it doesn’t work out - eternal depression). We forget the fact that Money is not the key to happiness and teach that Money = Happiness, by the time we realize that Money was just a waste of time we’ll all be old and close to death beds (no doubt money is important, but its not equal to happiness, less fortunate people are more happy)

How do we make our children happy? In earlier days just a simple hug, kiss and family picnic would make them happy and leap with joy. But now we are so busy to do that, so  give them something, some new toy to get busy with and stop disturbing us, parents. once done with a toy give them an advanced one to get dependent to, no need to be around them coz we are so busy making money.

We make our children to think like us, 'Work hard, spend less time with family is a small sacrifice to make more money, as money is more important, and to make anyone happy materialism is the key'.

It has become tough for the parents of the e-era; what to give what not to, do we let them watch TV? if so which movies are not adulterated. Do we give them Mobile phones? If So at what age? when is the best time to sacrifice our children to the technology gods?

      3. Love : -

Bonding of 2 hearts....

Love is a waste of time - as said in one of the movies, No more Falling in Love, No more the eyes crossing, the heart’s beating, the nights in thoughts of the beloved ones, now-a-days its fast, you love someone - immediately tell it to the one, application accepted - loafed around for few hours and break-up the same day.

How can we expect things to go longer when we don’t have that level of patience, or tolerance? We want everything at the tip of our fingers, be it food (instant mix), be it money (work from home), or anything, that we expect the same for Love.

Love now-a-days expires fast coz its validity is also depreciating - one of the side effects of Technology Gods.

     4. Respect :-

Not With Fear...

Earlier respect was for the age, the older a person we respected them more. Now the richer the person, the more respect they earn. And while they are rich they get influential people along and get more respect not earn them.

No Need to work hard to earn respect. Get money and respect follows - but what we forget is that its not a good respect but a negative respect follows, where people respect out of fear and always curse them and wish them bad.

All easy things come with a costly price.

Respect has lost its meaning, and it also has been dying. We value goods more than people - earlier we cared for people and used the goods, now we care for goods and use people.

We not only use them but also leave them stranded.

Change in Thinking Style

Let's take our whole world as one big computer, we all for the hardware and the software for this, upgrading ourselves faster and faster.

What happens when a virus hits this computer?

• It slows the world down,
• It Corrupts files,
• It pops a lot of errors,
• It takes up a lot of space and memory goes down,
• Finally crashes and dies.

For a Computer we can buy a brand new one - doesn’t really cost much or rather we can put a price on it. But what about our world?

• Can we really afford a new world?
• Can we put a price on it?
• Can we create a new World?
• Is Technology a Boon or a just sugar coated Virus?

Future in its making

Creativity Vs Technology - Conclusion

I guess it is safe to conclude that Creativity and Technology are inversely proportional to each other - which means that if Creativity increases, Technology reduces and Vice Versa.

What if we all decide to go Loco on Technology and give it a break?

What if we show it to Technology that we are more stronger than it?

What if we show it to our future that we can do it?

What happens then?

Well I love the dialogue from the movie PK - In the end When all is revealed, a sage says - We are indeed God Fearing people not God Loving and will return to the usual no matter how much fog / mist we clear up.

Just like that we have become Tech fearing people, we wont know what to do if we dont have one.

So then What is a Solution? What can be done? No Idea. All we can do is try and Travel the world, go to new places as Wisdom doesn’t come to us while we wait in one place. 

It is indeed when we travel that we achieve wisdom.

Just something to think on…

Let’s be the change we want around us :)

Thank you people, please feel free to leave any comments/ share your views :)

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http://blog.ketchum.com/is-creativity-a-testro-fest/
http://www.wired.co.uk/magazine/archive/2014/03/ideas-bank/mark-pagel
http://www.forbes.com/sites/joshbersin/2014/10/15/the-top-ten-disruptions-in-hr-technology-ignore-them-at-your-peril/#400dcc4524be
http://scottpublicrelations.com/bridging-the-technology-gap-between-physicians-and-patients/
http://www.scientiamtech.com/technology.html

          

Tips to make life happier.

Tips to make life happier.

Source: - http://thelinkpaper.ca/?p=35147

1. Keep your self esteem high (if you want people to respect you; first respect yourself): 

There are a lot of times when we feel that others are better than us, maybe, but how does that stop us from achieving our goals? coz we are way better than others in some aspects too... So rather than telling ourselves that we arent better, we should concentrate on our expertise and boost up that level of self esteem.

Source:- http://www.solentsu.co.uk/
support/education/feedforward/

2. Take feedback analyse it and apply feed forward (don't neglect all feedback, some may help): 

 Everyone gives feedback (Directly or indirectly by commenting on our lifestyle), there is nothing to be angry or irritated about it, because they are entitled to their opinions; but that doesnt mean all they say are pure words of wisdom, accept the ones you feel are needed for self improvement, others just trash them.

3. Always ask people for feedback, and always go for the critics, not the positives, bcoz your plan Is self development, not boasting.

 Asking feedback is always good; if you love something and need to master it then the only way is hardwork and feedback along with feedforward (Not taking feedback and doing nothing about it wont help, you have to work on it).

4. Avoid gossip of any kind (puts you in trouble always, if not now then in the future): 

 You heard a gossip? then go and tell the person you heard it about, if you can take it to the grave then do so...but "DONT spread it". What you heard may not be the total truth or may not even be true at all.. in which case spreading it will only make it worse, as rumors are like chinese whisper / Grapewine communication, you only make friends for that moment, glory for that moment, but people will eventually leave you stranded.

5. React wisely: 

 Someone spoke ill about you or gossiped at your cost, then don't react first, understand the reason behind it, dont just get angry on that person and start a word fight, ask him / her directly and wait for their reply, look at their reaction, try to analyse, if nothing makes sense then that person was jealous, so just enjoy that and move on.

6. This too Shall Pass: 

 Keep a note to self at all times "this moment shall pass" read it, understand it and live it. It reminds us that time never stops for anything, anyone or anytime. So when you are the happiest, you'll know that it'll pass, when you are sad it helps, when you are low and depressed it helps. In general it helps you to stand on the ground at all times (If you are flying too high or if you've fallen on the ground, brings you back to your feet)

7. Respect is the Key: 

 No matter who the other person is always show respect ( don't respect for the position, respect the person) all work hard for their earnings, some get lucky and others don't, so don't laugh or make fun at their expense. (bcoz Fate my friend is like wind, it can change direction at anytime and towards anyone)

8. Lesson from Nature:

Mother nature has abundance knowledge and wisdom (only for those who are hungry for knowledge), if we just sit back and observe the nature, it teaches us lot more than we've ever learnt..

Learn from a tree, even if you chop it or burn it down it always has hope, not scared to start over again..

9. Believe it:

believe in yourself, coz if you don't then no one else will..

We always feel that we need someone or something to motivate us..why do we feel that? Maybe because we don't believe in yourself..the only motivation we need is internal... We believe in excuses more than ourselves...something went wrong or we made a mistake, our immediate thinking mechanism is to blame..

Why is it difficult for us to accept the mistake and believe in not making it again?

10. Uniqueness:

know urself to create a USP for self...
don't follow others USP bcoz it may not suit you...you may become like them but still can't succeed bcoz of the reason "its not wat u say, its how u say it creates an impression..

figure out your USP instead of copying others..

this can be done by moving out of the comfort zone and trying things not tried before..

bcoz only when u get out of comfort zone will you understand the value of yourself and will be able to understand your strengths n weaknesses

don't be a FIT WELL (Frog in the well)

11. Judge not: 

Try not to judge a person, not all who laugh are happy and not all who are sad in pain. Even if u judge(human nature can't avoid) keep it to self, you don't have to convert people to your opinion.

Judging only let's you see the person from the angle of your judgement, when he can be an awesome personality altogether...

So give people a chance and you'll get impressed by them, coz all have learnt their lesson.. And their teaching would be their way of behaviour...

Everyone has something to offer... So take it happily...

12. Everyone matters:

Never try and change people`s behaviour or opinion, you wouldn't change it yourself, so why will they. Everyone has the right to have their own opinion, so respect that.

We often believe that we are right, we know it soo much that we dont care about others opinion.. Well there is a wise saying " I would rather be happy, than right at any point in life".

We live for happiness, being right is good but being happy is better.. So never stop people from being happy (coz that is the best medicine)

13. Problems fear smile:
Secrets out, yes...
All our problems fear something and that something is easily accessible - "SMILE"
When we smile all our problems start biting their nails and get nervous, coz they know that their time has come...
So SMile to all your problems is the best reason for the right solution.

Always try to make people smile, be the reason for that smile.. try to make a new person smile everyday. (the real pursuit of happiness lies in other peoples happiness)

14. Make Mistakes:

No one was happy by our mistakes and the result, we make more mistakes on the same scene..

Reason - we dont stop and understand as to why we made that mistake in life, or how could we have avoided it, we are soo busy and adamant about the mistakes we've made that the learning goes to 0%..

What if we think as to why we made the mistake, make self analysis and feedback along with feed forward.. we learn quicker and we avoid repetition of it...

Never be scared to do mistakes, that's the best way to learn... but always remember not to repeat them.

15. Be Positive:

And no am not talking about the blood group ;)..

Our body and our nature is energy driven... and there are 2 major energy widely accepted - Positive and Negative...

Positive energy helps us be positive and think upright with low fears and helps us take wise decisions.

Negative energy makes us mistake prone and gets us into depressions, it also helps create doubts and low self confidence.

Have you ever wondered, when your heart is filled with love and joy everything that happens around you (Be it be bad or good), you take it positively.

16. Live and Let Live:

We are people who want to convert others to our beliefs... Why do we have to convince people to change?? Why cant we just live and let other live by their values??

Your life, your style... Why comment about others style when you'll get offended for the same.

Lets try and adopt a style where we accept all kinds of people for who they are and not who you want them to be (thinking that they need help and trying to change others for good isnt really a good idea, if you ask me)

 Never comment on anyone's lifestyle or habit (there might be a hidden painful reason for the same), we never know for sure what have they gone through in life. (its easy to say that he made a wrong decision and took a wrong path, because we did not try that persons shoes, what looks simple and easy is never really easy).

17. Use your own advice:

We love giving advice, as its easy and makes us look wise (also we know that we will gain attension when the advice works)..

Its not bad to give advice... but many a times our own advice isnt followed by us, in which case its difficult to lead others by example...

Lets try leading life by advices which we plan on giving others, so they will learn by example and not words.

Not everyone has the options you feel they have... everyone selects the best option for themselves..so stop feeling that a person would've done this instead of doing that...

You don't have the privilege to decide for others.

18. Happiness: 

When asked what gets me happy, I would say that its not the riches in the world or the appraisals at work, or the recognition that gets me happy... its always the simple and easyily found things that get me happiness (like the laugh of a child, being with friends making them laugh, enjoying a delicious meal with my sister, cooking, writing, being with nature, smiling at others and when that smile returns etc).

There is always a reason to be happy. find that reason and be happy.

19. Happiness Formula: 

Yes there is a formula for happiness, and i have even mentioned it in my earlier blogs.

Its, Happiness = Realizing that a goal / expectation is achieved (Divided by) Number of expectations or goals in life.

We always forget the expectations we had once we accomplish it... like when i was a kid i wanted to be a person who travels around... and when i did travel i set some new goals and completely forgot to sit and realize that my childhood dreams have come true...

The joy you get in this is more than just happiness (and that too in just acknowledging the fact that you have accomplished).

Lower expectation and increase acknowledging accomplishment ( reaching a goal always makes you happy) live the moment don't forget your goals (childhood goals).

20.  Dont pull people down:

A small story,. 2 people were fishing in a lake for crabs... the fisherman used to catch the crab and put them in an open bucket.. the other fisherman (relatively new to the field) asked him to cover the bucket to protect his catch..

To which the fisherman asked the new guy to observe the bucket and his catch..

What he observed was, that the crabs tried to get out of the bucket climbing slowly and using good strength to do the same... but the other crabs in the bucket pulled the one crab puttin in efforts to escape,. this way neither of them got out alive.

So lets not be a crab, but help others come up in life which helps us in return to be a part of their success,,

Thank you for reading this long message on Happiness....

Lets be happy... Lets put a smile on everyone's face around us ;)