Break Up - What Next!!!

  

How many of us fall in love and break up?



Patched up heart...What else can we do with a broken heart?

I would say that would add up to a great percentageJ.

Well No one can help anyone with break ups, they always hurt. They are a part and parcel of life.

Everyone loves change, so no one can blame anyone.



I remember an evolution theory put forth by Charles Darwin “Survivor of the fittest”. Fits 100 % to this situation I would say.

Well I’m no relationship Guru, But had couple of break up’s which helped me understand few things. My primary intention of writing this blog is to share the things that I’ve learnt and try to help those who recently had a break up.

Let’s try to answer an evergreen question – Why do people break up?

Well no one knows the actual reason; it might be anything and nothing. Break up is simply because one of the couple doesn’t see a happy future ahead in their relationship.

So is there a reason you have to stick on, if your partner doesn’t want to? Absolutely no, you can convince the other person and get him/her back, but is it worth? You should answer this to yourself.

It’s just a “pain postpone management”, all we are doing is just trying to make it work, so that we wont feel the pain at present. That again piles up and hurts you even more.

So what else do we do? Well simple answer from my side is – “If your partner really loves you, they just need time, they’ll be back. If not relax and enjoy life (Don’t wait for him/her)”.

Well words are easy but feelings can’t be understood. That’s absolutely true.

When I had a break up, all my friends gave me good suggestions… time will heal, give time… forget about her… you’ll get many girls…etc etc… But I always felt that’s tough, not consoling at all, only because I didn’t wanted to stand back on my feet, was used to the support I had from my ex.

Everything in our life is controlled by only one person, that person is “oneself”. If we decide to give up, then we’ve lost everything. If we decide to live happily, then no one can stop us from doing so.

Well it is tough; I’ve never told that it was a piece of cake for me. But that’s the challenge everyone has to take in order to excel in it.

There’s always a plan, always a way, always an easier method to everything in life. All we have to do is listen to our heart, for that method. It never happens though, because we make our heart weep, by reminding all the unnecessary stuff from the past. Yes it is unnecessary, because it makes us sad.

Why should we be sad in life? There’s so much in life to know about. God is the best creator, there are so many things he has done, and we should adore the gift he has given and move on.

Anything that makes us sad should be tackled in a different form. If there’s a problem solve it don’t be sad because of it, remember it will not solve itself.

“If you can solve your problem, then what is the need of worrying? If you cannot solve it, then what is the use of worrying?”

So work on your problems in a different manner instead of trying a usual   route.

For me I switched it with ‘craziness’. Whenever I became sad and vulnerable I did something crazy in order to overcome it.

Craziness helps divert your mind. There are different types of craziness, so check what suits you best.

All the mind needs after a break up, is diversion. Our heart is like a child, you divert it and you’ll find happiness. So Diversion theory really works. At least it worked for me.

There is another famous 4 letter word which helps in every situation... Do you know what it is? Ofcourse you know... The word is "NEXT"... You had a break up just say next time.. you lost a job interview say next interview.. you proposed and she didn't accept... tell yourself next time.. The word has a powerful meaning, deeper meaning.. it means we have to move on no matter what...

  

So its one life lovers… not one love…share your love with everyone.. Remember All of us are a precious gift given by God to the earth.

Love you all…

Live life to the fullest!!!!!











Questions Questions Questions !!!

Hi,

Its a New year, but i'm still the same... still the same "me" with the same feelings, same thoughts, same attitude, same behaviour..

• What is it that changes a person?...
• How do we know what change is for good or for bad....
• How do we know the life we are leading now is good or bad..
• How does anyone measure good or bad?
• Does good mean being good to everyone or being good to self?...
• Does the person, who knows the answer, know for sure if he's correct??

soo many questions to answer...

People can brainwash anyone easily... they can make others think in their way, but is it right? is it good?..

I see a lot of people who feel they are right at first, but later break down... There's a saying , it goes somehing like this "World would be a happy place if people work on thier own advice" how true is this?...

Now lets check on Love:

Love is good, they say, but is it? How do we know that love lasts forever? we never live forever, do we? Has anyone understood love? How can someone love another forever? is it just words?. yes we feel happy when we say it's forever, and we know it, but deep down we know once it topples, It goes wrong..

I've never understood whats right and wrong bcoz the society which defines it, always revises it....The thing which is good today becomes bad tomorrow...

Lets take example of parents, there are 2 major types of them:

• Some feel discipline plays a major role, so they work on disciplining them. But after a while children will resent it.. They'll feel that they shouldn't treat their children this way..
• Other parents believe in freedom, giving their children all the happiness, fulfilling all their needs, supporting them in all their demands. This spoils children and makes them dunderheads.

When we become parents we always feel that our children should live their life in a different manner. We give them what we dint receive, make them feel special, give them the happiness they deserve, but it always goes bad, because we dunno what is their happiness, we dunno what they really love. Nobody knows what others happiness is..its tough to guess and by guessing we are only labelling them... which is not a good idea...

Most of us dunno what makes us happy ( me for instance ). Something that makes me happy now, may make me sad later... Which theory can explain this?....world is always complicated, people try hard to make it less complicated.. which makes it worse..



What are you thinking :-)



Nobody's perfect, nobody knows what's good & whats bad... its only perception that counts.. as the saying goes - "Live life to the fullest"..."Stop worrying and start living".



  

Love you all !!!! Thanks for reading....
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A thrilling journey from Ooty to Nitte

It was a long day and we friends had enjoyed every bit of our time. Then, I bid my friends good-bye and boarded a bus to Ooty. I reached Ooty bus stand around 4:35.P.M. and looked out for a bus headed towards Coimbatore. I was lucky to get the right bus and boarded the same thanking God. The bus was supposed to reach its destination by 7:45 and that would give me ample time to take a rick to the railway station. Inside the bus, I was greeted by old romantic Hindi songs over the radio and that made me uncomfortable as I recently had a bad break up. Thus I slept through the journey. Somewhere along the way, the bus stopped and on enquiry I found out that a tree had fallen on the road and it would take a while before we moved. I looked up at the sky and smiled thinking that God had other plans. As a result, the bus reached Coimbatore an hour and a half late. I was certain that I had missed the 8PM train but I wanted to confirm that from the railway authorities, so I moved towards the station…. 

As I wasn’t aware in which direction the station was, I made a few enquiries which confused me even more. I thought for a while and decided to catch a rick, but the autowallas asked me to pay 100 bucks for the drop. That’s when I realized that I was carrying only a 100 rupee Gandhi note, so I began to look around for an ATM and kept walking till I found one. After dilly-dallying with a few auto drivers I got one who offered to take me to the station for 60 bucks. I reached the station at 9.P.M, found the information desk empty, so I went to the booking counter and asked for a ticket to Mangalore. The clerk issued me the ticket and told me in a weird voice “platform 3”. I was so happy that I got a train to Mangalore, but my happiness didn’t last long as I noticed that the ticket was to Bangalore. I went back to the counter and the curt lady helped me with the refund and also informed me that there was no train towards Mangalore until 7.40 the next morning. I left the station dejected and was loitering on the streets, when I spotted a travel agency. I literally ran towards it to check if they could help me, but to my horror I was told that there was no transportation available. I left the agency but went back again without losing hopes and got the same response. I went back a third time and to my surprise I was told that there indeed was a train to Mangalore but from Podanur station which is quite far. I thanked him for his help and moved in search of Podanur. After talking to many people with my funny Tamil accent, one person helped me board the right bus. There was a funny person in the bus who kept conversing with me in Tamil and I just kept nodding. I felt he was complaining about something but definitely did not look happy; anyway people always have issues so I just kept nodding.

I had requested the conductor to inform me when the station arrived but he forgot and dropped me in a dark place. In the confusion I did not realize I had to ask which direction was the railway station. It was pitch dark and I kept walking until I met an old man, who I could recognize due to the reflection of the mobile light on his face. It was quite freaky. I asked him the direction to the railway station, and he said that I need to walk in the opposite direction for nearly a kilometer. I was like wow another twist….so I started walking although there were many dogs on the way looking at me like wolves planning to strike on its prey. I just kept walking until a bus came from behind, I got in and told the conductor “railway station”, and he helped me. Finally I reached Podanur, but now I had to check the availability of a train towards Mangalore. When I asked the lady at the counter, she said that there was a train at 12:15.A.M. I looked at my mobile to check the time and it was 10:30.P.M so I had a good amount of time to wait. I booked the ticket to Mangalore and charged my mobile, and went out to get some food and water just to stock up in case my stomach craved for anything. While I was waiting it rained, (and boy did it rain!). The train got delayed by an hour making the night more long and boring, but as usual I did what I loved to do- talk to myself. Well, time passed by and finally it was the hour when the train arrived and not to mention it was as packed like match sticks in a match box. I somehow managed the train journey and it reached Mangalore around 9:30 A.M. I boarded a bus to Nitte and reached around 12 P.M. I freshened up and went to my classes- the usual grind…