The Problem of Life – High Expectations

Hi Everyone…

Well have you ever experienced that people treat you different, your image is changed, life isn’t turning out to be as you thought??

That brings to the question, is it a problem with other people? Or your own?

It is debatable indeed, but I’ll put my opinion forward.

“A life without expectation is filled with surprises”

Let me start with a wise saying:

“A life without expectation is filled with surprises” - My mood always brightens up after reading this saying.

In life we have a lot of expectations (be it @ work getting praises, @ home waiting for a romantic gesture from your other half, @ life waiting for something to cheer you up), manier times theses expectation piles up one over the other.. you know what the worst part is… you’ll never be happy if any of those expectations got fulfilled, its only bcoz you will never know that you expected it once you receive it..

Life is growing shorter day-by-day, its taking away one thing at a time.. Few things changing us (people)

       1.       Love towards things and opp of love(i.e.carelessness, hatred etc) towards people

       2.     Code:- Family has been replaced to Code:- Money, Code:- Status etc

       3.       Respecting elder’s concept has started to fade away and become a joke.

       4.       People are being killed for as little as hurting ego, or for jealousy.

Well these things have changed life, but have our expectations?? 

1.       Why is it that we expect from others and nothing from self??

 2.       Why is it that we take people for granted (another form of expectations)? 

 3.       Why is it that we feel people are supposed to be this and maintain that picture (when we know that people keep changing)?

 4.       Why is it that we are hooked on to stating what is good n bad?

 5.       Why is it that we are soo afraid to do mistakes (when we know that this is the best way to learn)?

      We can go on asking questions and it can only help us wonder and nothing more than that.. We are never ready to change coz we think we are perfect and don’t need something called as ‘change’in life..

The Burden of Expectations!!

We are followers.. we follow others.. we do wat everyone does..

 1.       Love only those who love us.

 2.       Hang around only with people we care (no meeting new people)

 3.       Hate a group/ race which you don’t like and make a group and hate them as a group.

So how do we lower our expectation?? Excellent question but can we find an answer..

 1.       Accoring to http://elitedaily.com/life/motivation/stop-having-expectations/ -

“There are two ways to be happy: improve your reality or lower your expectations.”

This emphasizes more on having realistic expectations and appreciating it once its achieved.

 2.       Another beautiful website (http://www.executiveblueprints.com/tips/071007goalsandexpectations.htm)

Explains to:

a.       Raise Goals

b.      Lower expectation (Expect less, learn more and absorb the new perspectives)

c.       Share your laughter (Laughter is meant to be contagious. It is intended to be shared. It is a gift that you can give to others and in the process you are giving something back to yourself. Make it an integral part of the strategy to achieve your goals to include a healthy dose of laughter. If you have forgotten how to make other people laugh, begin by making them smile. Set a goal for yourself to see how many consecutive days that you can make someone else smile. Exercise your sense of humor regularly and it will give you momentum to achieve your goals.)

  Life is beautiful… We miss a lot of things and we’re ok with it..

   1.       The way clouds move..

   2.       The way Nature takes care of itself.

   3.       The way life teaches you to make mistake and learn

   4.       The presence of the divine on top of a cliff and in silence amidst the nature

   5.       The way animals reflect to one another in the nature..

      

      Yes these are also important but we make it a point to give all our importance to work, clients, business proposals etc and the only change that makes us feel good is a job change…

We should learn to accept that life is more than just that.

Anywho.. It was nice typing this piece as it felt that I need to set my expectation towards the other side of me now.. the NATURal side of me ;)

Thanks for ready enjoy your day…